Today I’ve finished all the seasons of Kehne Ko Humsafar Hain, the show is streaming on Zee5, and on Monday all the episodes of third season dropped on. What I liked most about the series is the concept, which has been shown that how the relationships come and go like sea waves. The upcoming wave shows the possibility and the another side the leaving wave shows the curiosity about the next happenings. Basically the whole thing is about the relationship of after marriage and before marriage. Cheating in relationship has drawn in many films, serials and now web shows, that how the teenage or under forty deals with the situation but this show is all about the adult who crossed their forty and having children. The main lead betrays his wife’s thrust and gets married to his longtime girlfriend. The first season stands on the theme of as usual turns and twists.
In this so called indian society where relationships are based on the old school thought of marriage, that describes marriage is a life long game and in a game you don’t have any choice of abort. Because of education, the urban society is accepting the fact that if a couple does’t want to be in relationship then they will choose the option of divorce or separation. The man would look like the criminal because he broke the marriage but again that’s the question, how can man be the criminal only? What about that second woman, because of her arrival, the relationship broke. The victim tag goes to the wife but if someone doesn’t handle the relation and he or she just be in relationship because of that so called marriage system then how it could be acceptable.
Parenting is the most responsible job because it’s upto parents to shape the new ones. Society is the result of the adults who brought up the next generation. When the relationship splits the children would face a lot of troubles to adjust with the situation. In the series the first born girl tries to punish her father so she decides to get married with her friend, the love is one sided by him but for the revenge she gets married and at the end of the series separation happened. It’s a basic question that why do we blame ourselves for someone’s mistake? Who gave us the right to destroy our lives? Just need to think about it. As our elders said that, “the good and bad karma of our parents or ancestors affect on the present ones”. In the series, for punishing her father the step took by her is responsible for troubles in her own life. I think that’s her decision but how can we give a punishment to someone? that’s not our job. In this kind of relationships it’s very normal that the affect of parents behaviour is going to be long life. Each and every time the past shows its present and affects the future. Maybe for the new generation it’s important to learn that how to deal with this kind of happenings. Because in future divorce and separation might be very common as it is in west today.
Like first the second season is based on the ups and downs in new relationship but with that the new twist happened. The ex-wife follows the path of love with someone but that someone is ten years younger than her. That’s the new thing which is introduced first time in any series otherwise it’s been shown only in movies. This kind of love we have seen in ‘Dil Chahata Hain’, Dimpal Kapadia, the older woman is loved by Akshay Khanna, even in ‘Cheeni Kum’, sixty four years old falls in love with thrity four years old Tabu, in the end the couple gets married. These are some examples but this series filled with fights and romance, after marriage side effects are shown in the relationship of newly married couple, where adjustment issues happen and understanding gets lost day by day. But in ex-wife’s life, the entry of the guy, gives her attention like teenager, she feels herself eighteen again, because at this age she got married and had children in her twenties but because of him she lives that teenage life again.
The problem arises when she knows that she has menopause and she will not be able to give birth and that’s the starting of problem. The second marriage of husband ends with misunderstanding and later separation happened. And the reason is current wife’s past which has been filled with some bad memories, and that shown in third season. The ex-wife happily married with her young husband but all the sufferings are going on in ex-husband’s life. He decided to divorce her for happy life but because of that the ex got new one who cares and loves her a lot, that’s the irony of him, he doesn’t deserve his first and second both the wives but wanted her back. He lost his business, gets drunk all the day and as a fashion of web series where intercourse and kissing scenes are very common, similarly happens with this series also. The husband having an affair or we can say one night stand with every new girl.
Because of uncensorship the contents show on the OTT platform, that doesn’t need any filter, there is no law for that and that’s why the producers and directors also like to release on it. I just remember the movie ‘James Bond’, where the slogan ‘Sanskari Bond’ was viral, some lovemaking and sentional scenes were removed but now I think if the film had the release on OTT platform then it could have been possible that we could see those scenes but now downloading could give us that eye catchy feelings. By the way this is not the topic to discuss but this platform gives us the stage where any new and established person from art field can show his or her talent. In this series also the topic of extra marital affair, many women issues and not only the women but the problems of men are also shown with some drama and humour. Then the husband meets his son first time from her second wife. His younger daughter is getting married soon and she wants Kanyadan will be conducted by her three years old brother. The dysfunctional family is very well shown in this third season, the drunker father, divorced wife, seperated but without divorcy wife, having a relationship with her boss elder daughter, troubles in younger one’s marriage. These all are the perfect recipe for any abnormal family.
But this is the last season so every problem is solved, so let’s talk about husband, he got his wife back but after divorce, yes, that’s the condition, she wants her lover back not husband, doesn’t need any rule in their love life, in the last scene when husband comes back to her house as showed in first season, the cycle is completed. That’s the new beginning, I think getting into any relationship makes us feel guilty or pleasant that’s upto those people who are in it. The wife’s past life bothers the relationship, she lived in orphanage even she knows her mother is very established politician and because of her reputation she sent her to the orphanage. So even she knows that husband didn’t make any mistake but the mistake has been made by him was betrayal her trust, that past affects her present life. But in the last the wife comes back and the story goes towards its end.
As I said, the ex-wife got a very good husband who helps her even his mother doesn’t want her to be her daughter-in- law though he always stands by her. She wants a child and for that they choose surrogacy treatment, that’s the new thing today. As we might have heard that many celebrities are having their children by using this treatment, this is very common now a day. I think we really have to educate our people to accept this kind of new things, this is the need of today. Really want to remove all those past baggages and accept the new free minded attitude, that’s my opinion but as Javed Akhtar says in his many speeches, “We can accept the modernization but as we know the kite can’t fly long without uphold thread like that the society can’t survive long without uphold its culture”. This is also a one side of fact where culture and our tradition are very important to show our identity. But sometimes we need to change and as we see the change happens each and every moments with new technology, education, new scientific research and so on.
The hindu marriage system saat phere (seven round) is very important, each round is the symbol of promise, and whole life we have to act according to maintain that promise. If anyone wants to break and live his or her life with new way, the blaming game is started by people of own family and society. Now days in urban areas living in relationship, divorce, separation without divorce are very common at least some metropolitan cities. Even our films, television shows and web series show us the new trend of youth. I’ve seen one short film of Anupam Kher, named ‘Kheer‘, the old age couple lives in one house, they were best friends in college but because of situation they married different people and at this age they come together and live with each other. When his grandchildren come to meet, they ask about the lady and the answer given by grandfather is very meaningful, for that you have to watch Kheer. But this shows that how society is changing and the change happens everywhere, not in the technology but in human life, too.
It’s time to think about some issues, really the contract in relationship gives the sustainability of it or we have to move on for maintaining the balance in that. There is no rope in the world which tie the person up, the only thing which makes him yours that’s Love, your unconditional love. At the end of the series the come back of husband without any burden of rules, rituals and saat phere tradition really hit your belief system. I think as a society this is the time where we have to adapt new norms and ethics, because generation is changing, upcoming ones are more free minded and for that change is needed. Beyond the entertainment the series shows us the new era of upcoming society. So it’s upto us to change ourselves or stick to the past.
Life goes on 